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iamshadow wrote fic: Children of Time, River-centric gen. (Doctor Who)
+bells on Parker. (Leverage)
+dreamwriteremmy on Mina Hakuba. (Castlevania)
+redsnake05 on Toshiko Sato. (Torchwood)
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synecdochic wrote the ghost in the room, or, why modesty is a dirty fucking word. Well worth reading.
Expanding on what I posted in this week's pride thread: life's been throwing curveballs at me for a while now. I'm proud of the fact I'm getting on with things anyway, but in some ways I'm more proud of my growing ability to cut myself some slack. I'm learning to put my health before everything else, even my degree, and I think that's an achievement worth being proud of and working to cultivate further.
A lot of the culture I'm surrounded by places so much emphasis on driving yourself past your own limits in order to exceed - be better, faster, stronger, no matter what cost will be taken from you in return. I slowly, but firmly, reject this notion. Part of striving to be the best person I can be is being as well as I can be, and part of that is taking time, taking care, taking rest, and allowing myself to feel and react and process my life before moving onto the next thing.
iamshadow wrote fic: Children of Time, River-centric gen. (Doctor Who)+
bells on Parker. (Leverage)+
dreamwriteremmy on Mina Hakuba. (Castlevania)+
redsnake05 on Toshiko Sato. (Torchwood)---
synecdochic wrote the ghost in the room, or, why modesty is a dirty fucking word. Well worth reading.The rules of 'modesty' -- overwhelmingly enforced against women -- say that you aren't supposed to take credit for your achievements, no matter what those achivements are. That you aren't supposed to admit that you worked hard on something. That you aren't supposed to admit that you did something worthy of praise. This is, most often, made manifest by demurral: since you can't admit these things, therefore, the thing you are being complimented on must not have been an achievement, or required hard work, or been worthy of praise.
Expanding on what I posted in this week's pride thread: life's been throwing curveballs at me for a while now. I'm proud of the fact I'm getting on with things anyway, but in some ways I'm more proud of my growing ability to cut myself some slack. I'm learning to put my health before everything else, even my degree, and I think that's an achievement worth being proud of and working to cultivate further.
A lot of the culture I'm surrounded by places so much emphasis on driving yourself past your own limits in order to exceed - be better, faster, stronger, no matter what cost will be taken from you in return. I slowly, but firmly, reject this notion. Part of striving to be the best person I can be is being as well as I can be, and part of that is taking time, taking care, taking rest, and allowing myself to feel and react and process my life before moving onto the next thing.
