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such_heights) wrote2014-08-11 11:36 pm
such_heights) wrote2014-08-11 11:36 pm
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I love you so who needs Romeo
A couple of weeks ago I sent purplefringe an email:
happydork and I had been engaged-to-be-engaged for a while, you see. Discussing it amongst ourselves and with a few friends, but not making it public. We're going on holiday next month and were going to do it then. But lovely as that would have been, I had a better idea.
One of my favourite Lashings acts is a riff off Taylor Swift's Love Story - you can watch a typical Lashings performance here. I'd never performed it myself before, but given the choreography includes a proposal and everything, it seemed too perfect an opportunity to pass up.
I double-checked withhappydork that she felt positively about a public proposal (as detailed in her post, with very accurate annotations), consulted with fellow Lashers to check that they'd all feel happy being part of this, and also asked the organiser of the LGBTQIA track how they felt about it. I wanted to do this publicly so that we could share the moment with our community, so getting the go ahead from a few different people felt very important. We also realised we'd need to let the audience know ahead of time that this was a mutually agreed event and not something awful and pressuring.
I spent a lot of time listening to Taylor Swift on a loop and singing in odd places wherehappydork wasn't around - the shower was a big help. Then it was rehearsals with my Lashings co-conspirators and lots of excited flailing at purplefringe and Awesome Housemate K whenever happydork was elsewhere.
It's a surprisingly hard thing to keep secret! I kept nearly dropping myself in it as we discussed convention plans, but luckily I more or less managed not to entirely give the game away.
In the run up I was actually pretty calm - it was all organised, I knew what I was doing, now I had to go speak on another panel so couldn't think about it anyway. Then on Saturday afternoon I went back to my hotel room to get my stage clothes together and it suddenly struck me. It's an amazing feeling, knowing you're about to experience something that you'll remember for the rest of your life. It became nearly impossible to focus on anything else, so of course time slowed to a crawl.
We were headlining, and I couldn't pay as much attention to the other acts as I would have liked. I just sat and half-listened and thought about the ring sitting backstage.
We'd gone through staging ahead of time so I knew wherehappydork needed to be, and gently positioned her there during the interval. Somehow, when the Lashings set started I managed to get through the other two acts I was in reasonably well - probably a blessing really as it didn't give me any more time to sit and stew. And then suddenly it was time.
I don't think it was the best vocal performance of my life, with the nerves shaking up my tuning. But I knew what I was doing and carried through, singing out to the crowd, and then I turned around and there she was, in all her Stark glory -- tank top and grease stains and arc reactor and eyeliner goatee. There was a moment where it still looked like she wasn't sure, or couldn't quite believe it, but then I went down on one knee and we both sort of melted, and suddenly she was kneeling down next to me and hugging me while a crowd of people got to their feet and cheered.
As soon as the noise died down,happydork said words that will be etched onto my soul forever: "Holy fucking shitballs, you guys are all arseholes. Also, yes." I've told her she's not allowed to put that in her vows but I'm not sure she's listening to me.
After that it was just a whirlwind of tears, hugs, congratulations and being completely enveloped in love. We got well-wishes from beloved friends who were there with us and from people we'd never met. Also from Thor, Wonder Woman and the Glow Cloud.
The whole thing went better than I could have ever hoped. We drank, dance, and finally went back to our hotel in the middle of a rainstorm, singing all the way.
purplefringe an email:So the thing is that waiting until the end of September is two whole months away and that’s so looong omg.
Do you know what’s not far away? Nine Worlds. Do you what’s awesome? Convention proposals. We'd never get the rings organised in time but I've found a good stand in one that is cheap but the same kind of colours/style.
It could be during a panel, or during the Lashings show, or I could enlist some helpers do some kind of lobbycon thing? If I do it on the day we're both cosplaying there could be a whole Iron Man shenanigans thing idk.
happydork and I had been engaged-to-be-engaged for a while, you see. Discussing it amongst ourselves and with a few friends, but not making it public. We're going on holiday next month and were going to do it then. But lovely as that would have been, I had a better idea.One of my favourite Lashings acts is a riff off Taylor Swift's Love Story - you can watch a typical Lashings performance here. I'd never performed it myself before, but given the choreography includes a proposal and everything, it seemed too perfect an opportunity to pass up.
I double-checked with
happydork that she felt positively about a public proposal (as detailed in her post, with very accurate annotations), consulted with fellow Lashers to check that they'd all feel happy being part of this, and also asked the organiser of the LGBTQIA track how they felt about it. I wanted to do this publicly so that we could share the moment with our community, so getting the go ahead from a few different people felt very important. We also realised we'd need to let the audience know ahead of time that this was a mutually agreed event and not something awful and pressuring.I spent a lot of time listening to Taylor Swift on a loop and singing in odd places where
happydork wasn't around - the shower was a big help. Then it was rehearsals with my Lashings co-conspirators and lots of excited flailing at purplefringe and Awesome Housemate K whenever happydork was elsewhere.It's a surprisingly hard thing to keep secret! I kept nearly dropping myself in it as we discussed convention plans, but luckily I more or less managed not to entirely give the game away.
In the run up I was actually pretty calm - it was all organised, I knew what I was doing, now I had to go speak on another panel so couldn't think about it anyway. Then on Saturday afternoon I went back to my hotel room to get my stage clothes together and it suddenly struck me. It's an amazing feeling, knowing you're about to experience something that you'll remember for the rest of your life. It became nearly impossible to focus on anything else, so of course time slowed to a crawl.
We were headlining, and I couldn't pay as much attention to the other acts as I would have liked. I just sat and half-listened and thought about the ring sitting backstage.
We'd gone through staging ahead of time so I knew where
happydork needed to be, and gently positioned her there during the interval. Somehow, when the Lashings set started I managed to get through the other two acts I was in reasonably well - probably a blessing really as it didn't give me any more time to sit and stew. And then suddenly it was time.I don't think it was the best vocal performance of my life, with the nerves shaking up my tuning. But I knew what I was doing and carried through, singing out to the crowd, and then I turned around and there she was, in all her Stark glory -- tank top and grease stains and arc reactor and eyeliner goatee. There was a moment where it still looked like she wasn't sure, or couldn't quite believe it, but then I went down on one knee and we both sort of melted, and suddenly she was kneeling down next to me and hugging me while a crowd of people got to their feet and cheered.
As soon as the noise died down,
happydork said words that will be etched onto my soul forever: "Holy fucking shitballs, you guys are all arseholes. Also, yes." I've told her she's not allowed to put that in her vows but I'm not sure she's listening to me.After that it was just a whirlwind of tears, hugs, congratulations and being completely enveloped in love. We got well-wishes from beloved friends who were there with us and from people we'd never met. Also from Thor, Wonder Woman and the Glow Cloud.
The whole thing went better than I could have ever hoped. We drank, dance, and finally went back to our hotel in the middle of a rainstorm, singing all the way.
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