"There is a 95% chance of any kink more than light bondage being done so badly I want to hide forever, so I'd prefer avoiding it altogether in an exchange"

Haha, well, that is also sometimes true. *g* I sometimes still ask for R and below in big exchanges for similar reasons.

And yes, I absolutely used to do that as well! I'm glad that I think about it more now, though, as it helps me be clearer about what it is that I do like, and in turn increase my chances of getting awesome fic. :D