Usually, people cut for length or content, so I can decide if I have the spoons to cope.

Right, absolutely - it's not hard to scroll by! And hearts for you, I know dealing with comments on these topics can be super spoon-draining.

Especially considering how many people around me in-person don't even begin to get it.

Yes, this is an important point as well! Some of us do have offline friends that understand these kinds of issues, but many of us don't. If fandom's the only space to talk about this stuff, even more reason to treat the conversations with respect.